computer science major.
“Situationships,” or undefined romantic entanglements, have become emblematic of today’s dating environment, stemming from online dating culture. Casual dating without a label is not a new concept, but the term “situationship” was coined by Carina Hsie in a 2017 Cosmopolitan article, where she described the phenomenon as a “hook up with emotional benefits.”
These relationships, which often lack clear boundaries or commitments, have seemingly become the new norm. The illusion of unlimited options that dating apps lend to the world of romance contribute to the phenomenon of situationships, as people hesitate to define their relationship or invest in it deeply. Situationships offer temporary companionship, but often lead to confusion and heartbreak.
The first online dating site, Match.com, was launched in 1995. According to a Daily Mail interview with the site’s co-founder Gary Kremen, the idea for the site came about because “[He] was trying to find the right person to marry.” While the original purpose of online dating sites was to promote genuine connections, in their current form, they commodify users and reduce the real people to superficial profiles. Apps like Tinder are oversaturated, allowing users up to 100 swipes per day. Since there are so many options available, commitment has become less important than convenience, making actual relationships seem replaceable.
While there is nothing inherently wrong with the concept of casual dating, pursuing this dynamic should not come at the cost of respect. Dating without labels or commitment can lend implicit permission for either party to “ghost,” or stop engaging with the other party without explanation. It’s immature and disrespectful, but it has become normalized, especially in the era of online dating.
The problem here is not just the ambiguity, it is the emotional labor that situationships demand. Undefined relationships risk wasting time and disappointment.
Connecticut College’s student newspaper, The College Voice, claims that although ghosting has been around for years, it is now simpler than ever to end relationships without taking responsibility because of social media and dating apps. Someone can vanish from your life with a simple tap, leaving you with nothing but unanswered texts.
Psychology Today reports that for many, the fear of confrontation leads to ghosting a potential partner. But this behavior only adds to the toxic atmosphere of online dating.
Beyond seeking a partner, many people use dating apps for attention and validation. A match, a message or a compliment can provide instant gratification and a temporary boost in self esteem, even if there is no real intention to form a connection. This has contributed to a cycle where people seek external affirmation rather than meaningful interactions.
Growing awareness of these issues has sparked conversations about changing the way we approach dating. People are starting to value vulnerability, openness and clarity over the quick, casual exchanges that have defined online dating for years.
A 2024 Social Science Research Solutions study found that 56% of U.S. adults aged 18 to 29 have used online dating apps at some point, but only 13% currently use them. Many young adults report feeling dissatisfied with their dating experiences, struggling to form lasting connections.
According to a 2025 study conducted by the dating app Bumble, 64% of women are becoming more assertive about their limits and wants and are refusing to accept anything less than their standards. It takes more than a swipe to establish a genuine connection; it requires patience, honesty and respect.
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